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Police: Naugatuck Teen Abused Her Baby

Naugatuck police have charged the girl with first-degree assault and other crimes.

Editor's Note: The child is a boy. We originally reported the child was a girl. We regret the error and fixed it as soon as we learned of it. 

A 19-year-old Naugatuck girl is accused of physically abusing her 4-month-old son, police say.

Alexandria Valentine, who lives in the Southwood Apartments at 933 Rubber Ave., is accused of shaking her baby to the point where the baby had bleeding on the brain and severe injuries from suspected abuse, police said. The child was treated at Waterbury Hospital and the Hartford Children’s Medical Center, where the child was still hospitalized on Friday.

Police began the investigation on Nov. 1 after learning that Valentine had abused her child. The child was found bruised and unresponsive and was treated by emergency personnel. Doctors later found that someone had caused the abuse, and Valentine admitted to shaking the baby out of frustration, police said. (See follow up here.) 

Valentine was charged by warrant with first-degree assault, first-degree reckless endangerment and risk of injury to a child. She is released on a $50,000 non-surety bond and was arraigned today at Waterbury superior Court.

SuperDave November 10, 2012 at 04:18 PM
So, you all think that the innocent child attacked her, and she acted in self defense?? I know we all live in a world where you are no longer responsible for your actions and always a "victim", but come on!
joan p November 10, 2012 at 04:34 PM
to bbrc: Are you kidding me what are you saying the baby shook itself as a mother if she didn't do it then she should know who is around her child no matter which way you look at it she is to blame period
crbb November 10, 2012 at 05:13 PM
I personally know the mother (Ally) and i know for a fact she did not purposely hurt this child. I was around her and her child almost everyday. She is a great mother to her baby boy! When ever i was around, that baby was always smiling and never crying nor never bruised. When he was hungry she would feed him and burp him. When he was tired she would lay him in his crib with the baby monitor on. He was well taken care of. This was all accidental, after everything she went through, i know in my heart that it was not purposely done. So you people should seriously stop judging her because you only know one side of the story. So you all assume that if the police say this, it must be true. This is ridiculous.
Grumpy Guy November 10, 2012 at 07:25 PM
rcbb, & crbb are you both kidding me? did you even read the other story where she ADMITTED the abuse??? And even if it was just one incident, that one incident left her baby in SERIOUS jeopardy. Unresponsive with a bleed on the brain and a fracture leg- did the police & hospital get THAT wrong too? Or did the baby inflict that on HIMSELF? Come on folks, come out from under your rock. She might have been a good person trying to do the right thing and it might have only been a single incident but a single incident is all you need!! Her baby damn near died!! If the other caregiver didnt bring him to a hospital, this could've been even worse!! This isnt a video game where you get a "do-over" this is real life and her baby may well be impaired for life due to her 'single incident'. You can exalt and praise her to the high heavens as a "great mom" but in that one moment not only did she fail to protect her baby, she harmed him!!! And you were with her "almost everyday" so does that mean that NOTHING happened because you werent there to see it? The fact is, that one incident DOES make her an unfit parent because of the seriousness of the injuries. It doesnt matter what happened in the first four months of that baby's life, what matters is that one time because her baby may be permanently impaired. Sorry to be so blunt about it but thats the way it is.
crbb November 10, 2012 at 10:47 PM
Okay because you know everything.
Grumpy Guy November 11, 2012 at 12:32 AM
Wow, even when your friend admits she shook the baby and with the scope of the injuries..on one hand I admire how you support your friend but on the other hand, I wonder how you would feel if she did it 'just one time" and it was YOUR kid in the hospital with a bleeding brain and broken leg. No matter how much you care about your friend, if she put YOUR child's life in grave danger, I wonder how you'd feel then.
Snoopy November 11, 2012 at 02:22 AM
Hey Grumpy Guy I think the acused supporters are as sick as she. After reading police report she does not deserve supervised visiting as I previous stated. No visits ever under no circumstances. She should be in jail with NO bond, on S/I watch AND, with an additional charge of attempted murder.
John November 11, 2012 at 04:35 AM
I can not belive that some people here actually think there's 2 sides to the story. What could a 4 month old baby do that you could excuse anyone doing something like that?
Gary November 11, 2012 at 06:11 AM
The child is 4 months old...peeing, pooping and crying... now everyone knows both sides of the story! How can a child that can't walk and probably not crawl, break a leg??? Even if it is (accidently) dropped, it is pretty hard to break a childs leg because their bones are somewhat flexible. One last note, to be able to give someone a criminal charge of abuse, cgs 46b-120 the injury is done "other than by accidental means" In other words, the child didn't just fall off a changing table! I truely hope the child is ok and is given to someone who will love and care for him. I hope that everyone gets the help they need.
crbb November 11, 2012 at 01:52 PM
Grumpy Guy - Honestly, if you knew Ally, you would understand how much her child meant to her. The look in her eyes when she looked a him, was unbelieveable. She loves him more then anything in this world. I understand how she admitted to shaking him, but she didn't want to hurt him. The last thing she would want to do is hurt her own baby, and that, i know for a fact. I do understand she may have caused those injuries, but it wasn't done intentionally. This article and the news reports make it seem as if she abused him and wanted to hurt her child, which is not the case at all. I understand how you must think about this whole case and to be completely honest, i would feel and think the same things if i didn't know her or know her side of the story.
crbb November 11, 2012 at 01:54 PM
But i do and i understand where she's comming from. I hope the baby is doing okay, and my prayers go out to him and his health.
sally perzanowski November 11, 2012 at 04:45 PM
I pray the baby heal and never need to see the likes of this true evilness again. Poor thing.i saw this girl daily on my walk to work. Who was with the baby? A baby at any age is innocent and to think there is another side ..you must be evil as well .this child only deserves love and joy.
sally perzanowski November 11, 2012 at 04:47 PM
Also, even if u know her it does not excuse this terrible act, I was abused and I do not and will not abuse my child especially at such a young defenseless age . Its in excusable
sally perzanowski November 11, 2012 at 04:59 PM
It saddened me that some of you feel its ok to shake there baby. No child deserves this
Kaylin November 11, 2012 at 06:28 PM
She's a good mother?! A 4 month old is going to cry, and cry and cry and cry! So, if your mother got sick of your crying, it'd be okay for her to shake you until there is bleeding on the brain?! NO! Do you ever think the baby might of been crying because of it's fractured leg? She probably did that too! And all the bruises? She abused that innocent child that just got out of the hospital in October for being born too early. The baby was already struggling with that and then this asshole goes and does that to him?! She's a disgusting lowlife and whoever defends her is just as low as her. She deserves way more than 10 years. This baby could have permanent brain damage because of her. She's a horrible, psychotic "mother". Some women can't even have kids, or pass away when their kids are young. Those women want and deserve children because they wouldn't abuse them. Women like this one, don't deserve kids, EVER.
ALP November 11, 2012 at 07:56 PM
I am a family member and I cannot believe that people are actually sticking up for her. Is there something seriously wrong with you, that you'd support and say that she's innocent of hurting that poor innocent child. We've known Ally since she was born and she's had a hard life, but that doesn't excuse that sort of behavior. And there have been members of the family that have been concerned since the baby was born because she did not bond well with the child. It's sad that people think there are two sides to this story, there isn't. There's no way that child did anything to possibly deserve to be abused so severely that it resulted in such serious injuries. And since we are family, we know Ally best and know what she's been through in her life but that's STILL NO EXCUSE for her actions. She's admitted to abusing the child and you couldn't understand what this family has been through in this last week of hell. She denied denied denied and then the truth came out that she's the one that did this. So for you to sit there and say that she's a good mother, you clearly know nothing about her. Shame on you for supporting her, and thank you to those that feel she is undeserving of ever seeing that beautiful baby boy again. @GrumpyGuy, you hit the nail on the head with this one, thank you.
Robert Lee November 12, 2012 at 12:45 AM
They should make it so she cannot have another child if that's the way she treated that child. Hopefully the child will be placed in a loving home........
Grumpy Guy November 12, 2012 at 11:55 AM
Let me ask you something= what would you think about someone who is otherwise an 'amazing person' gets drunk ONCE and causes a car accident that leaves someone severely handicapped for life? It might only be a single incident but some innocent person's life is potentially RUINED because of it. Thats the equivalent of what happened here. This might have been the first time it ever happened but it should NEVER happen. And she does NOT deserve a do-over. This is an innocent human life we're talking about here.
Grumpy Guy November 12, 2012 at 11:56 AM
You're welcome.
sally perzanowski November 12, 2012 at 12:37 PM
So how is the baby as of now? So very sad.
carol dubois November 12, 2012 at 05:03 PM
That lady should not ever. be allowed near that baby .an u people that are defending her are as sick as she is. an none of u deserve to have kids omg u all make me sick!!I was a single mom of two an a hard life but I never would think of hurting my baby's!!! I raised my kids to adult hood an I. had a. hard life . we all have problems but we dont go beat are kids up !! Give her an operation so she can't have any more kids. my god this is an evil act
carol dubois November 12, 2012 at 05:10 PM
Why would any of u say that there is 2 sides to this story????She hurt her baby what other side is there. I hope the baby is going to be ok. And that the law helps keep that baby far away from that evil person.I hope the law helps the family protect that angel from that evil person that gave birth. EVIL EvIL. shame Shame. I am sick to my stomach thinking about it an the ones that say SHe Did Not Mean It!!!!!
TLO November 12, 2012 at 07:46 PM
I am a family member and agree with ALP wholeheartedly.As of this morning the baby is doing better. Yes Ally was a victim of the system and we tried to make her life better but the courts always let others win and she fell through the cracks. We hope and pray in the baby's case good wins which I think it will!!!! And to the people that are fighting saying there is two sides I guess you haven't heard the whole medical report!!!!! Once you do I'm sure you'll have a different opinion!!!!
Snoopy November 12, 2012 at 10:27 PM
I previously stated no vistation ever, tubal ligation, better still a TOTAL abd.. hysterectomy with a bilateral oophorectomy. Then a pregnancty could not be blamed on a failed ligation of tubes. Let her have hot flashes. Should still be jailed with S/I precaution, NO BOND, and an additional charge of ATTEMPTED MURDER. I hope the child recovers without disabilities but this could still become a homicde. This abused child is young and fragile. There are cases where one is injured one year, lives for years, and the cause of death is HOMICIDE as a result of injury years before. She is far from being out of the woods with additional charges as it relates to these injuries. Like I said before she needs MH services and so does her supportive friends. Should she get jailed, inmates do NOT like child abusers. They often take care of them with shanks and any means available to them.. Segregation is the only protective measure that can be taken.
Grumpy Guy November 13, 2012 at 03:02 AM
You know what bbcr or crbb? There is no other side to this story. A parent is supposed to protect and care for their child. End of Story. This girl probably didnt wake up one morning and decide, todays the day I shake the snot of my baby. But the fact is, thats what she did. She does NOT deserve a second chance- you are just being an enabler if you cant see the reality here. We are talking about a completely defenseless human life here, not a house plant- this is a living breathing baby who needs to be sheltered and protected from exactly the kind of abuse that has already been laid on him. Who knows when she might snap again? Only next time, maybe the baby isnt so lucky that someone brings him to the hospital in time. Maybe next time the baby winds up dead. THEN what do you say? Do you still try to have people see it from her side??
getta November 13, 2012 at 05:55 AM
So heartbroken. I'm not sure who is claiming to be family members but it sounds like u know a lot about her past when really u don't know the half of it. I am in disbelief. I don't want to believe it but right now facts are facts. There is no excuse in the world that can excuse this kind of behavior on an innocent baby. Unfortunately her mother wasn't very much of a role model with her own mental health issues and she might have passed those genes down. I feel so bad for this innocent baby. He deserves a chance at life. No matter how frustrated why she would think its ok to shake this baby is beyond me. I wish she would have used her support system and picked up the phone to call someone. I also know that she is young and inexperienced being a mother. Babies shouldn't be having babies. With that being said a part of me can see her admitting to something someone else said she did or doubtin her parenting skills because she is inexperienced. What's done is done though. She admitted to this crime so now she has to pay the price. Hopefully this innocent baby has a chance at a normal life without any lasting effects. Right now he deserves to be with a loving family member. He has been through enough. He is a fighter and has been doing great despite everything this little guy has been through. We are all optimistic that he will pull through and have a great life. Only GOD can judge and everything is in his hands when the time comes.
Stephs November 13, 2012 at 04:46 PM
@snoopy the abuse ally suffered was sexual abuse at the hands of her stepfather, according to her mother.
Stephs November 13, 2012 at 06:39 PM
@getta i totally agree with your post. Ive known her family, her moms family, very well for years. Im in disbelief as well. Ive watched Ally grow up and never ever in a million years would i have ever saw this coming. So many things turn my stomach here, primarily that this innocent baby who already had overcome so many obstacles, including his own birth, and still had many more to go, was hurt by the very person who should be keeping him safe.....and also that the little girl that I watched grow up could be capable of doing such an act. I lve asked the question "why couldnt she just have picked up the phone and called someone?" a million times. I've cried for her poor innocent son, I've cried for her, and her parents and family...i am keeping all of them in my prayers....
getta November 13, 2012 at 08:19 PM
@stephs For myself being a family member as well I've watched ally grow. No doubt she has been through one hell of a life with the sexual abuse and had to grow up with such an unstable environment. I am still in disbelief. I wish she would have called me. I pray everyday that she didn't do this. The baby is doing well And hopefully has no lasting effects. Having kids of my own I would do anything to keep them safe. I'm just so upset because its so close to home and no baby deserves what this baby has been through. It just makes me so sad. I would have done anything to help ally and the baby. I never saw any signs of instability on her part. I thought she was actually doing something with her life and getting on her feet with her own apartment and having a job. I just have no answer as to why?! I keep trying to figure it out but no one will ever know.
Stephs November 14, 2012 at 12:17 AM
@getta, i probably know you too....i too thought the same thing, that she was getting on her feet, last time i saw her was at her job right before he came home and she was so excited about that...and her new apartment...i gave her a hug and a kiss before i left and said "call me if you need anything" She said ok, and i wish she had. I agree , i never saw any outward signs of instability...i read all these comments and im certainly not condoning what she did, but i guess if anything i just want people to know that prior to all this, Ally wasnt some insane psychopath or "evil" as i read, NOTHING EXCUSES WHAT SHE DID , but the Ally ive known since birth was neither of those things. I do wish that her mom had gotten her some help for what she'd gone through, though, maybe then, she would have worked through alot of it and been in a better place , mentally.....my heart breaks for that baby, and for her too

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